An open letter to anyone who has said “We can’t all be perfect like you”

captioned this blog post with the phrase “we can’t all be perfect like you” because lately everyone keeps saying that to me. Let me first start by saying, when you say that to someone YOU are comparing yourself not them. Secondly, I’m far from perfect. “Well your relationship is perfect, your job is perfect” blah blah blah. Yes my husband and I have a pretty good relationship, is it perfect no, what relationship is? But let me tell you, we didn’t always have the perfect relationship at all. To get where we are now took years of working and fighting for each other, that we continue to do on a daily basis. We grow together not as one. Am I lucky? Yes. Very. Our relationship is what I like to call old school, the kind of relationship your grandparents had. We learned how to communicate. The number one thing to a good relationship is trust. My husband and I have an insane amount of trust for each other. I usually get this saying from family members, just because the choices I made for myself are different from yours doesn’t make me perfect. I fight daily to maintain my “perfect” life. Am I the perfect daughter, my dad might say yes, but what dad wouldn’t, but no I am not. I get angry, I say stuff I don’t mean, but I try to be a good daughter, there is no perfect daughter, but I work on my relationship with my dad daily. If I had the perfect life, then why did I spend six years isolated from the world, why did I attempt suicide? Why does anxiety have control over me? Why am I depressed? I can be perfect and have all that baggage. My life is the way it is because I put effort into my life. I but effort into my relationships, my friendships, my school work, my job. The next time you compare yourself to me by saying “we can’t all be perfect like you” remember you said it not me. Your the one who questions how perfect you are. You have the power to change, you have the power to have good relationships, or be good at things, you just have to put effort into it. I am not perfect, but Im happy to be me. I’d rather live my whole life knowing I’m not perfect than spending my whole life trying to be.