It’s okay to grieve, it’s not okay to let grief consume you.

This post is gonna be raw. I have so many people question how I am moving on and not Grieving my recent failed marriage. It has only been two months since my life was flipped upside down. The truth is I am still grieving, but I grieve to myself, on my own time and in my own way. I don’t want to be a victim to grief. Why should I sit at home crying and sad, when I can live my life and take moments to grieve. We as a society have been taught to be sad and until we are not sad about the situation anymore. That’s not who I am. The honest truth is I am going to have moments of sadness for the rest of my life. A song will play and I will think of a memory that went with it. I will come across a picture of when we were happy. I can’t let potential sadness consume me and stop me from living. Life is short, so short that if we spend our time living in sadness it will pass us by. I let people see me happy, because that’s what I am at that moment, I may go home and be sad, but why make myself sad when I don’t need to be. Don’t get me wrong I am sad that my relationship ended, but I am at times happy it ended. You know good relationshipA don’t just end. So while I’m sad that it ended, I’m also relieved. Grief presents in many ways. A lot

Of times I take a 20 minute shower and cry! That is me grieving, but on my own. I don’t need people to see me cry to know that I am sad. Stop questioning someone who is moving on, who is happy when they are with you, because we all grieve differently and in our own ways. You don’t see me cry, but that doesn’t mean I don’t. I have feelings as much as the next.

I have my moments of sadness, but that sadness is going to define me. That sadness isn’t going to steal my happiness. I will not be consumed by grief.